What Can I Do to Get Wet During Sex?
Up to 31% of pre-menopausal people experience vaginal dryness. That number jumps to about 50% after menopause.
No matter where you are in your reproductive journey, dryness can be a real inconvenience. Vaginal dryness can lessen your confidence and even make intercourse feel painful and uncomfortable.
Are you one of many people who have trouble getting wet when it's time to rumble? Is your sex life feeling less "splash zone" and more "dry spell" lately?
Read on to learn more about how you can get wet during sex!
Why So Dry?
If you struggle to get wet, there's no need to worry. Popular media and porn make it seem easy, but it's not unusual for people to experience vaginal dryness on occasion. There are many potential causes of dryness, including:
- Hormonal changes
- Medications and antihistamines
- Harsh vaginal washes and soaps
- Stress and anxiety
- Insufficient arousal
Sex should never be painful, and persistent dryness could be a sign of another health condition. If dryness becomes a serious concern, it's always best to consult your doctor.
Ways to Get Wet
Vaginal dryness doesn't have to mean an end to pleasurable sex. Luckily, there are many ways you can remedy dryness and make your sex life more wet and wild!
Preparing for Sex
Evolutionarily speaking, having sex was dangerous for humans. Stopping for a quicky in the woods would leave you vulnerable to predators and other people. You probably aren't worried about tigers in your bedroom today, but your body still has instincts that may keep you from getting jiggy with it.
This is why setting the scene and vibe before sex is crucial. If you struggle with dryness, discuss with your partner how they can help to turn you on. Simply tidying up the bedroom, lighting a pleasant candle, or cooking dinner before sex can help.
Engaging in Foreplay
On average, male and female bodies take the same amount of time to reach peak sexual arousal, roughly 10-15 minutes. During this time, the vagina lengthens and lubricates, and the clitoris, vulva, and nipples become more sensitive.
Dirty talk, touching, oral sex, and masturbation can help with arousal. It's essential to wait to have penetrative sex until the partner with a vagina feels fully aroused and ready. Starting too soon can feel dry and painful.
Using Quality Sex Lube
High-quality lubricant should be essential in everybody's sexual toolkit. Whether or not you struggle with vaginal dryness, lube will make experiences with partners, toys, and self-play much more pleasurable. Lube for intercourse is vital if you struggle to feel wet enough on your own.
Using lube for sex should not replace quality foreplay time, but it can help you get wet, stay wet, and feel more pleasure. There are many flavored options for lube that can sweeten your foreplay experience!
Switching Up Sex Positions
Did you know that not every sex position is conducive to wetness? Missionary position can actually be more uncomfortable than other, "less conventional" positions. Spooning, doggy, or cowgirl may make you wetter because you can stimulate your g-spot and clitoris better.
If you can't seem to get comfy, remember that sex can be more than just penetration! Try outercourse positions that stimulate the clitoris, such as 69, the spork, or the chairman!
Playing with Toys
Like lube, sex toys are a pleasure essential. Most people with vaginas need clitoral stimulation to feel pleasure and orgasm. Toys are a great compliment to foreplay and sex.
Toys can inspire your imagination, stimulate your body, and increase intimacy with your partner. Using toys to stimulate the clitoris and G-spot will increase your arousal, helping your body produce its natural lubricants.
Splashing Good Times Ahead
Vaginal dryness doesn't have to drain the fun out of your sex life. Communicating with your partner, using sex lube, and focusing on your arousal can help you regain confidence in the bedroom!
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